I Think What I Want

“I think what I want is for someone to know me. 

Really know me. 

Know me better than anyone else and maybe even me. 

Isn’t that why we commit to another? 

It’s not for sex. 

If it were for sex, we wouldn’t marry one person. 

We’d just keep finding new partners. 

We commit for many reasons, 

I know, but the more I think about it, 

the more I think long-term relationships are for getting to know someone. 

I want someone to know me, really know me, 

almost like that person could get into my head. 

What would that feel like? 

To have access, to know what it’s like in someone else’s head. 

To rely on someone else, have him rely on you. 

That’s not a biological connection like the one between parents and children. 

This kind of relationship would be chosen. 

It would be something cooler, 

harder to achieve than one built on biology and shared genetics. 

I think that’s it. 

Maybe that’s how we know when a relationship is real. 

When someone else previously unconnected to us 

knows us in a way we never thought or believed possible.”

~ Iain Reid, I'm Thinking of Ending Things

If You Walked Away

“If you walked away 

from a toxic, negative, abusive,

one-sided, dead-end, low vibrational

relationship or friendship — you won.”

~ Lalah Delia

What A Relationship Looks Like

“What a relationship looks like on the outside 

isn't the same as what it's like on the inside. 

You can be more in love with someone in your mind 

than with the person you see every day.”

~ Jean Kwok, Girl in Translation

Life

“Life takes a bit of time and a lot of relationship.”

~ Wm. Paul Young, The Shack

Funny

“Funny how we take it for granted that we know all there is to know about another person, 

just because we see them frequently or because of some strong emotional tie.”

~ Robert Bloch, Psycho

Laughter

“Laughter is more than just a pleasurable activity...

When people laugh together, they tend to talk and touch more 

and to make eye contact more frequently.”

~ Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project

Better To Put Your Heart On The Line

“Better to put your heart on the line, risk everything, and walk away with nothing 

than play it safe. Love is a lot of things, but “safe” isn’t one of them.”

~ Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

Somewhere Along The Way

 

“Somewhere along the way, we all go a bit mad.

So burn, let go, and dive into the horror,

because maybe it’s the chaos which helps us find where we belong.”

~ Robert M. Drake

If You're Right And I'm Not

“If you're right & I'm not, I'm going to be hell to live with, she said. 

So, you better think about that next time you want to be right. ”

~Brian Andreas

It's All About Falling In Love

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself

and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you,

rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit."

~ Eartha Kitt

Relationships Take Up Energy

“Relationships take up energy; 

letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. 

When you lose someone you were close to, 

you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. 

The more your identity was wrapped up 

with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.”

~ Meghan O'Rourke

Love Doesn't Have To Be

“Love doesn’t have to be on Valentine’s Day.

 It doesn’t have to be by the time you turn eighteen or thirty-three or fifty-nine.

 It doesn’t have to conform to whatever is usual.

 It doesn’t have to be kismet at once, 

or rhapsody by the third day.

It just has to be. 

In time.

 In place.

 In spirit.

It just has to be.”

~ David Levithan, How They Met, and Other Stories

If I Say

“If I say your voice is an amber waterfall in which I yearn to burn each day,

 if you eat my mouth like a mystical rose with powers of healing and damnation,

If I confess that your body is the only civilization I long to experience… 

would it mean that we are close to knowing something about love?”

~ Aberjhani, Visions of a Skylark Dressed in Black

Why Does Anyone Stay

“Why does anyone stay in an unhappy relationship? 

Because people do. They do it all the time. 

And the truth is, when you’re in it, 

when you’re up to your neck in the everyday part of life with another human being,

sometimes you don’t exactly notice how bad things really are.

 It’s not always as apparent as it would seem. 

Unhappiness, when it involves another person, 

can be like that line from The Sun Also Rises about going bankrupt, 

how it happens two ways: gradually, and then suddenly.”

~ Sarah Dunn

He Thought About This

“He thought about this for a second. 

"True. But if you never really make friends, 

you probably don't have anyone to be your 2 a.m. 

Which would kind of suck. I just looked at him as he stirred his soup, 

carrots spinning in the liquid. "Your what?"

"Two a.m." He swallowed, then said, 

"You know. The person you can call at two a.m. and, 

no matter what, you can count on them. 

Even if they're asleep or it's cold or you need to be bailed out of jail...

they'll come for you. It's, like, the highest level of friendship.”

~ Sarah Dessen, What Happened to Goodbye