The Quickest Way

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake 

(choosing the wrong person) 

is by learning from that, moving on, 

and choosing much more wisely in the future.”

~ Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: 

The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

Yes

“Yes, it's a well-known fact about you: 

you're like death, you take everything.”

~ Milan Kundera, Laughable Loves

Love

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”

~ Edith Hamilton, Mythology

But Why

“But why, why, why can't people just say what they mean?”

~ Graeme Simsion, The Rosie Project

I Believe

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love;

 that true love can endure any circumstance 

and reach across any distance.”

~ Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: 

Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell - Leaving is not enough

"Leaving is not enough; you must

stay gone. train your heart

like a dog. change the locks

even on the house he’s never

visited. you lucky, lucky girl.

you have an apartment

just your size. a bathtub

full of tea. a heart the size

of Arizona, but not nearly

so arid. don’t wish away

your cracked past, your

crooked toes, your problems

are papier mache puppets

you made or bought because the vendor

at the market was so compelling you just

had to have them. you had to have him.

and you did. and now you pull down

the bridge between your houses,

you make him call before

he visits, you take a lover

for granted, you take

a lover who looks at you

like maybe you are magic. make

the first bottle you consume

in this place a relic. place it

on whatever altar you fashion

with a knife and five cranberries.

don’t lose too much weight.

stupid girls are always trying

to disappear as revenge. and you

are not stupid. you loved a man

with more hands than a parade

of beggars, and here you stand. heart

like a four-poster bed. heart like a canvas.

heart leaking something so strong

they can smell it in the street.”

~ Marty McConnell

Sometimes

“Sometimes the one who is running 

from the Life/Death/Life nature 

insists on thinking of love as a boon only. 

Yet love in its fullest form 

is a series of deaths and rebirths. 

We let go of one phase, 

one aspect of love, 

and enter another. 

Passion dies and is brought back. 

Pain is chased away 

and surfaces another time. 

To love means to embrace 

and at the same time to withstand many endings, 

and many many beginnings - 

all in the same relationship.”

~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: 

Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

This Love

“This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience - 

it looks for a way of being constructive.

Love is not possessive.

Love is not anxious to impress 

nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own ideas.

Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage.

Love is not touchy.

Love does not keep account of evil 

or gloat over the wickedness of other people. 

On the contrary, 

it is glad with all good men when truth prevails.

Love knows no limits to its endurance, 

no end to its trust, 

no fading of its hope; 

it can outlast anything. 

It is, in fact, the one thing that stands 

when all else has fallen.”

~ Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me be a Woman

I Suppose

“I suppose that since most of our hurts 

come through relationships so will our healing, 

and I know that grace rarely makes sense 

for those looking in from the outside.”

~ Wm. Paul Young, The Shack

I Love You

“I love you. 

I hate you. 

I  like you. 

I hate you. 

I love you. 

I think you’re stupid. 

I think you’re a loser.

I think you’re wonderful. 

I want to be with you. 

I don’t want to be with you. 

I would never date you. 

I hate you. 

I love you…

I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. 

Did you have a disease or something?”

~ Shannon L. Alder

You Know

“You know that when I hate you, 

it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”

~ Julie de Lespinasse

Assumptions

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”

~ Henry Winkler

I'm Not Crying

“I'm not crying because of you; you're not worth it. 

I'm crying because my delusion of who you were 

was shattered by the truth of who you are.”

~ Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: 

Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Because Introverts Are

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, 

at least, have the appearance of calmness, 

we are attractive to emotionally needy people. 

Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, 

can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”

~ Adam S. McHugh

Thought I Couldn't Live WIthout You

“Thought I couldn't live without you

It's gonna hurt when it heals too

Even though I really love you

I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to

Quickly I'm learning to love again

All I know is I'mma be ok”

~ Leona Lewis