“the wounded child inside many males is a boy who,
when he first spoke his truths,
was silenced by paternal sadism,
by a patriarchal world that did not
want him to claim his true feelings.
The wounded child inside many females
is a girl who was taught from early childhood
that she must become something other than herself,
deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others.
When men and women punish each other for truth-telling,
we reinforce the notion that lies are better.
To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth,
and most importantly, we affirm the value of truth-telling.
Lies may make people feel better,
but they do not help them to know love.”
~ Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions